When Everything is Fine

There are a bunch of things around me right now that are fine. Not a loaded fine, like when you ask someone how they’re doing and they say they’re fine and they’re clearly not. These things are legitimately fine. Like, not exciting, not great, not terrible - just fine.

Maybe I should be grateful that everything is fine. Maybe I should be counting my blessings that things aren’t terrible. But, to me, this is has become a symbol that things need to change. I know that “fine” becomes “blah” real quick. And then “blah” is just a hop, skip, and jump to:

What am I doing with my life?
I’m wasting time.
This is cute and all, but it's probably time to just get a real job.

Delightful, I know. These are my personal demons that like to haunt me every once in a while. Maybe you recognize some of them? Or have your own different ones?(And, just for the record, I have more. I’m sparing you the extended version. These are the highlight reel.)

So in an effort to pump the brakes at “fine” and curb the inevitable descent into “all is lost”, I’m going to try something I’ve heard many people do, but never really had much success with.

I’m going to try making a decision from a place of “Hell Yes, or No”. 

Now, if you’re like me and tend to overanalyze things (to put it lightly), this sounds like something even we can master. It’s clear and obviously self-explanatory. If it’s not a “Hell Yes”, it’s a no. Meaning, if you’re not clearly excited about it, you don’t do it.

Sounds simple enough, right?

And then I get to Day 1, and it all goes to hell. What is Hell Yes? Have I ever felt a Hell Yes? What if it’s not Hell Yes enough? Is Regular Yes just fine? What if it’s a Neutral but I think it’s a good decision? Or is that a Hell Yes?

(Don’t worry, I want to murder me too.)

So I quit seconds later, angry at anyone who loves this exercise and also baffled about how anyone accomplishes anything if they’re always waiting for a Hell Yes.

All that to say, we’re back here again. And I’m giving it a shot. So, if you’re anything like me and want to try a new way of decision-making, at least for a little while, let’s do this.

We can’t possibly mess things up too badly, right? 

Godspeed, and see you in a week.